Is there something that keeps you from going after the things you want? Is the fear stopping you from achieving your goals? Fear can keep you shackled in situations that do not challenge you to grow or become better.

We opt to stick to jobs and relationships we dislike, turning down offers that demand more of our time, focus, and energy just because we are afraid that things could go sideways. So we over – analyse certain opportunities and relegate them as unattainable without giving ourselves a chance to see if the benefits of accepting them outweigh the risks that come with them.

It is because of this crippling uncertainty that you’re quick to say no to opportunities that have the possibility of changing your life.

So, Why do we say no too many times?

One sad reality is that we are always on the lookout for the worst-case scenario. We constantly push away opportunities because we do not believe in ourselves and our own capabilities. I have missed out on plenty of opportunities all because I didn’t believe in myself. Back then I realised it was time for me to change this..yes changed did scared me a little bit but it also excited me because I had learn to be open to opportunities.

Instead of stepping up to grab the chance to transform our lives, we cower back and shut ourselves out by saying no to anything that calls us out of our safe zone. It is often true in the workplace, and in spaces that put a spotlight on our abilities. Instead of jumping for the chance to lead a project, we take a backseat because it removes responsibility from us.

When we ought to use our talents to bring a change in our lives and the lives of others, we overthink and end up losing the opportunities to others who are more open-minded and more willing to take risks.

Saying no seems to be a safe way of guarding against the possibility of failure. It offers a safety net in the event of a fall. When we say no, the assumption is no one will point fingers at us when perceived failures come.

We say no to tough conversations with clients or with our loved ones because we are afraid of the consequences of letting people know that we are unhappy. So we bury the displeasure even when we know it affects us and brings dissatisfaction. It always seems comfortable to say no until opportunities come and pass you by, leaving regret in their wake. You can read ‘What is Growth Mindset’ right HERE

Ask yourself ‘why do I keep saying No all the time?’

The power of saying yes

Developing a yes mindset has the potential to turn things around for the better. When you say yes more often, you become open and more accepting of opportunities, even those that demand more than you are willing to give. A yes mindset opens you up to possibilities and allows you the chance to experiment with things that are not familiar to you.

Saying yes means you are open to trying things on for size, even when they are outside your normal mode of operation. When you constantly reject ideas that come into your head because they seem too far-fetched or unrealistic you place mental blocks on your creativity. You can read ’12 Ways You Can Say Yes’ right HERE!

Accepting the opportunity to head a project stretches you and unlocks your innovation. It challenges you to be diligent with research, which helps you gain more knowledge on the matter.

Instead of shooting down growth opportunities, saying yes allows ideas to flourish and grow. When a chance to start your own business or make a career shift comes, do not immediately deny it by giving reasons it should not work.

Entertain the idea and do your research. It just might lead you to the realisation that it is not only possible but that you have what it takes to make it happen.

How to adopt a yes mindset

Believe in yourself! You have to believe in yourself if you don’t have belief nothing will change for you. In the past this was something I had struggled with. Over time I had learned to believe in myself. When I did, things started to changed for me.

A lot of the time when we turn down opportunities, it is because we do not have faith in our abilities to deliver on the demands they make on us. We think the worst of ourselves and we let such opportunities pass us by, which usually brings a lot of regret in the aftermath.

The best way to combat this is to develop confidence in what we offer. Know your strengths and make use of them to secure opportunities that propel you to do the impossible. You have what it takes!

 Do not knock it until you give it a chance

Have you knocked back something without giving it a chance? I have done this a few times then I later regret it. It always played on my mind the ‘what could have happen if I had said ‘YES’…

When an interesting opportunity comes your way, do not immediately block it by listening to the voices in your head telling you how you are not the right person for something you want to achieve for example being your own boss or that you do not have what it takes. Allow the idea to flesh out in your head. Do a little brainstorming on the issue. What would it require for you to take that opportunity up?

How would a leap into uncomfortable terrain make you feel if there is a guarantee you win at it? What is the worst thing that could happen if you took a chance and said yes? If you need help on this I have a Two FREE day ONE hour coaching sessions this is value from $500 there is an opportunity for you to think about. You can learn about the Free One hour coaching HERE!

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