There is so much power to change lives in learning to say ‘yes’ more. 

Of course, you cannot say ‘yes’ to everything especially where you are dealing with people; there is a thin line between using the power of yes and being a pushover.

This sucks the life out of you and pulls you back from reaching your goals. To unleash the real power of ‘yes’ you need to know the right things to invest yourself in.

Growing up I was reserved and also an over-thinker to the extent that I would calculate my chances of getting an opportunity.

I would also calculate my chances of ever doing or getting something right and make the decisions to not even give it a try based on the calculations.

With time I gained more confidence and told myself it is better to give life more positivity and discover more of my capabilities. I told myself if I failed, at least I would have tried and will know what doing it feels like while I learn a few more lessons.

That has opened my mind to so many things and has helped build my personality and improve my life. When I look back now, I wonder how much of life I missed out on only because I couldn’t say, ‘yes’.

In most cases what stands in between us and our goal is the lack of a positive mindset; yes I can do it, yes it worth trying, yes I will take the risk! It does not matter how much others do to help us, if we do not have a positive mentality we will fail before we even give it a try.

Some of the reasons why people are often hesitant to say ‘yes’ include the fear of being judged, limiting connections with others to avoid being hurt, and low self-esteem.

Where there is negativity or fear around us, we do everything we can to say ‘no’ and are able to not just convince others that we have solid reasons to let opportunities pass us but, we convince ourselves too. Without learning to say ‘yes’, we limit ourselves in so many ways.

How saying ‘yes’ makes things happen

You are able to overcome or go against your fears – saying yes does not require you to be the bravest person alive. You need to be willing to get things done and to grow.

This should be your priority. Once you prioritize your dreams and value them, you develop something in you that pushes you to act even when it is scary and you doubt yourself. This helps you discover your abilities and gain confidence.

You become open-minded – as you say yes more, you realize the possibilities that surround you. Identifying new opportunities gets easier and you open yourself up for things you otherwise would have thought are for a certain kind of people.

Being open-minded also means more exposure and growth for you. When you say yes you also open yourself up for more life lessons.

You meet new people – learning to say yes also means getting out of your corner and allowing yourself to interact with others.

This might sound like too much work for introverts but, you do not need to put yourself under pressure to achieve this. After all, your interactions must be strategic.

Build relationships that are necessary for your success and avoid getting yourself caught up with people who do not contribute to your growth.

You understand yourself better – being open-minded and meeting new people can help you improve your personal life. When you spend time by yourself or when you are not being strategic in building relationships with people, you are not challenged enough to identify your strengths and weaknesses.

Interacting with the intention to grow helps you learn more about others which can also lead you on a self-discovery trip.

You get used to failing and experiencing huge victories – as you challenge yourself and grab opportunities that are beyond your comfort zone, you get used to failing and you experience victories that are beyond your usual level.

This helps you understand how trying contributes to your success through the lessons gained. The fulfillment and happiness that come with victories will push you to keep going and be your assurance that anything is possible.

You gain confidence – saying no keeps you static and we do not get to experience much outside the boundaries we create due to fear. This lack of experience and touch from the outside world keeps that fear within us.

Saying yes, on the other hand, helps us confront our fears and experience what awaits beyond them. Each step taken against our fears is a step taken towards building our confidence. We realize the power in us and gain strength to do even more.

You will have more fun – saying yes makes life more interesting. Instead of sticking to the same routine to avoid being hurt, disappointed, or judged, you explore more and engage in activities that give you more energy and happiness.

Experiencing something bigger than what we thought possible gives us the thrill of our lives.

and remember I believe in you 

much love 

Ronni xx