Before you overthink it, say yes.

Do it while the offer still stands on the table; fresh and new. I assure you that you only need to hesitate once and you already fall prey to that crippling fear that is anti-progress. Make it your habit to say yes to something different.

You complain of monotony and the fact that things continue to happen like they always have but have you stopped to consider how many times you have shied away from potentially interesting activities just because you wanted to stick to a familiar routine?

Next time they ask you to go with them just say yes and immediately go. If you enjoy yourself that will be great but if you don’t then look at it this way: you have just unmasked one more thing that you are sure you don’t like. Crossing it off your list of potential interests and get ready for the next adventure!

A couple of years ago I went to a seminar at this seminar everyone was to make a decision if they wanted to speak on the stage. There was 100 people in the room the speaker said the group will be split into two.

I started to freak out. I didn’t know why, I realise I was torn with making a decision if I should speak on the stage or not. I kept thinking back how I had always wanted to speak on the stage. I just couldn’t make the decision.

While having morning tea I was dwelling on the decision. A lovely lady who was sitting next to me she was a professional property developer. She has her own business and dose seminars and loves it. She asked me if I was going to speak on the stage I told her I’m unable to make a decision, I’m scared! 

We got talking I shared my fears and what had happen to me in the past she said this is your chance to over come this. I thanked her for the encouragement. When the group was split into two I was in the other room.

It was mentioned we all had only two minutes to speak if we wanted to get up on the stage he explain he will go through each person on the seat and you make a decision when we ask you.  

I watched the other people getting up to speak then, the next three people who were sitting near me. THEN it came to my turn Ronni what is your decision?

I don’t know what came over me all I can see is everyone looking at me. Suddenly, I’m standing up then I said ‘yes’ without thinking about it. 

I walked up to the front of the room onto the small stage. Still shaking like a leaf. While standing on the stage I had my head down, then I looked up seeing all these faces looking right at me waiting for me to say something! I was unsure what to say I knew I couldn’t stand there and say nothing.

Then I spoke for the two minutes it felt like eternity. 

After, I had finished I went back to my seat three people came up to me gave me a hug. When we all walked out of the room. I had more people walking up to me giving me a hug. Each person told me my story made them cry. Their encouragement was overwhelming. I did not know people were crying when I shared my story.

They wanted to know more about me and my story.

I was to do this again the next day this time for a bit longer and this time in front of 100 people. I was very nervous however my mentor who is a professional public speaker Pat Mesiti. He took my hand and said you got this.

It was all I needed to keep going.

The lady I had chatted to came up to me said Ronni you made the right decision you have open a new door for your career keep going. That is exactly what I did I kept going. I am very grateful for saying ‘Yes’ it has open a lot of doors for me.

If I had not said ‘yes’ I would have lost an opportunity. So saying yes gave me a chance to over come my fear and allowing myself to be open to many other opportunities. Since then I have been saying ‘yes’ to a lot of things. My motto is yes I will give this ago and see how I go with it.

You only know just a little to get started but have no idea how you will proceed?

If you avoid it then you will never know what could have been. Say yes even while doubt is the dominating sentiment, just say, “Yes I will do it the best way I know how” and then go ahead and do just that.

The obsession to control and direct everything at each stage is what keeps a lot of people stuck in familiar territories wondering what could have become of their potential.

Allow yourself to be stretched. Like an elastic band, you won’t go back to your original state after the stretch. You will increase even if it is only a little bit.

You will grow and change only in a good way. Develop resilience to withstand interior and exterior pressures. When an opportunity presents itself up for you to scale up, by all means, grab it.

Think later about the challenges you will need to surmount but at the nick of the moment give an enthusiastic YES!

It could be true that you are not qualified at all for the position you so desire, but you know what; leave that to the recruiters to decide.

Go ahead and sell your other advantages, experiences ad qualifications. Find that uniqueness about you that could be of importance to this job and concentrate on that instead of whining over your shortcomings.

Most of the things you want in your life need you to forcefully take them. Playing nice or playing the victim will not bring you the results you want.

If not for anything, begin to answer yes to the call to challenges just so that you may have fun. Have a good laugh and be at liberty to enjoy life.

Adopt a child’s take on new challenges. Unless something is wrong, a child is not self-conscious as he or she learns the rules of e new game.

They throw themselves into the challenge and learn the rest as they go. Take the pressure off yourself and have fun.

Accepting the challenge is about welcoming a new era in your life. There is no guarantee that it will be much better than the one you are in but there sure is a guarantee that it will be different.

We were created to enjoy the diversity that is why we shrink where there is a repeat of the same old things.

Look around and see that the human being is the one creature blessed with a wide variety of foods to try out and activities to take part in.

The human being’s mind is full of so much curiosity that he never should dilute it just because he is too scared to step out and possibly make mistakes.   

At the end of the day you have nothing to lose if you say no to an opportunity you know this is going to play on your mind. In life you don’t want to have regrets. 

Remember, I believe in. you

much love

Ronni xx 

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