Do you wonder if you’re kind by nature?

Or, is kindness something that you must work at?

What about people you care about, such as your family or your partner.

Are the important people in your life kind?

Does the kindness of others bathe you in warmth and comfort?

This is one of those questions that most of us seem able to answer by instinct. It’s easy to feel when someone is inherently kind, without having to analyse their personality or tally up their acts of kindness.

You just seem to thrive in their presence, don’t you?

If you yourself are kind by nature, then you likely attract many friends who feel drawn to your soothing spirit which seems to naturally comfort others.

So how can we tell that a person is simply kind by nature?

Below, let’s explore some possibilities:

They seem to know what others need, and are ready to offer.

Kind people feel okay with not always being the centre of attention.

In fact, being supportive of others comes naturally to them. Kind people have discovered that it feels good to give, and so they approach relationships with a spirit of generosity.

They show healthy boundaries and don’t demand too much of your time. Kind people are good at striking a balance between give and take in relationships.

They have likely been taught that compromise and negotiation are useful tools for getting along with others.

And because they are naturally kind and don’t wish to take advantage of others, they use these skills in getting along with others.

They speak gently and quietly for most of the time.

Kind people have an easy way about them that makes others feel comfortable in their presence.

They have learned the art of delicate communication which involves speaking softly as well as keeping their listening ears open.

Being kind doesn’t mean being shy, though indeed some shy people may be kind simply by nature.

It’s just that kind people don’t wish to hog the limelight, and they are aware that part of showing respect for others is giving them mental space.

They’re always ready with a thoughtful gesture.

When you think of a kind person in your life, memories may come into your mind where this individual showed a thoughtful gesture.

Maybe they remembered things about you that most people would overlook. Maybe this person acknowledged something great that you did, and so you felt they were kind for paying you some positive attention.

They don’t speak badly of others.

While some individuals relish bad-mouthing others, folks who are inherently kind tend to stay quiet and avoid bad-mouthing or gossiping about other people.

A kind person might decide to ignore a rumor that they may have heard about someone else. Or they might go out of their way to befriend or get to know a person that others may have had said bad things about.

They don’t keep a list of wrongs.

People who are kind at heart are quick to forgive, and they aren’t likely to hold a grudge or keep score in relationships.

Because of this, kind people tend to foster healthy relationships and aren’t likely to find themselves mired in a toxic dynamic (unless, of course, the kind person lacks a backbone, in which case they may find themselves involved with someone who may be the opposite of kind).

And, remember I believe in you

much love

Ronni xx 

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