How much you allow your emotions to control you?

And, why do you suddenly experience emotions when you are not expecting it?

Sometimes we wonder where our emotions come from; Our emotions come from the  subconscious mind.

In our everyday life we need to be aware of our emotions and how we react to those emotions.

And, what effect it will have on you.

Every negative emotion affects us in different ways. For example, it:

• lowers your self-esteem
• makes you feel unhealthy
• increases feelings of depression
• promotes deep sadness
• induces anger

So how do we deal with these types of emotions?

Ignoring your sadness or pretending you don’t feel hurt or in pain, even anger,  won’t make these emotions go away.

It is important to acknowledge your feelings while recognizing that your emotions don’t have to control you.

So, let’s say you wake up on the wrong side of the bed.  Can you control your mood and turn your day around? 

This happens to many of us, when we wake up we experience emotions before our day even begins.

In my experience I remember one morning I woke up all I did was cry.  I was crying uncontrollably  because I didn’t want to go to work and be bullied ALL day again!  I knew I had to go to work to earn a living and so I could get paid.

I kept on crying, then I became angry and moody. I wasn’t controlling my emotions I let them control me.

These emotions were making me feel sad all the time. I honestly didn’t know HOW to control my emotions. I was also very sensitive to a lot of unnecessary things and I would cry very easily.

So what did I do to control my emotions?

I had to learn to:

• remove distractions
• be still
• breathe deeply
• locate my emotions in my body
• thank my emotions; and then
• let them go

You may be wondering how weird it sounds to thank my emotions.  What I mean by this is whatever emotions come up for you, thank them for being there and allowing you to be aware of them. Then thanking them and letting them go is a powerful way to take your control back.

I had to learn to stop crying all the time and letting things upset me so easily, and I found this was the fastest and easiest way for me to do that.

So, can you control your emotions?

Absolutely, you can if you be aware of your emotions and take action to move them along.

Select the situation that may trigger any unwanted emotions; then modify the situation. Shift your attention to focus on something that makes you feel happy.

The best way to deal with negative emotions is by building up your self-esteem and the best way to build up your self-esteem is recognising you deserve to be loved.

If you share your weakness to make yourself vulnerable, 

to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength

by Criss Jami

Remember, you deserve to love yourself.  Mirror work can be a rewarding thing to do for yourself. Just start with a few minutes at a time and then build it up to around 15 minutes. 

Each and every morning, look in the mirror and look into your eyes.  Acknowledge yourself for being you, for being amazing, for being a good sister, brother, mother, father, aunt, uncle, partner, wife, husband, worker, friend, a good loving person.  

But most of all tell yourself – I Love You. 

This is a very powerful thing to do and it works.  

I do this daily, it makes me feel good and it has built my self-esteem.  This can be an emotional thing to do, however if you do this every day you will notice fabulous changes within yourself.

I remember when I first started to do mirror work I felt funny, it was really strange standing there looking at myself not knowing what to say or to think…

I would stand there and stare at myself….

I didn’t know what words to say; so to help myself a little further I made a list of all the beautiful words I wanted to hear about myself, then I stood in front of the mirror and practiced. Interestingly enough, this also helped me to improve my speaking.

I told myself in the mirror all the things I wanted other people including my parents to acknowledge me for.

It was an emotional thing to do, this is a way to practice loving yourself because it was the best way for me to get closer to who I am.  Not the person the bullies were labelling me as.

This helps you to STOP the bullying in your Life. I teach this and other techniques in my course ‘I Believe’ In self Mastermind.

Everything changes when you begin to love yourself and control your emotions.

You will feel like you no longer send out bad energy of desperation or need to be filled from the outside. This is really important. Beware of harvesting your bad energy.

You become a powerful source with yourself that attracts better things for your life. I know deep down you want the better for yourself. Keep reminding yourself that you have all the potential to take control of your emotions.

Every day you wake up be aware of your emotions turn them into positive.

And think about how can you improve your self negative thoughts? 

Remember, I believe in you

much love

Ronni xx