Why My Fears are Not My Authentic Self

We all have fears.

I used to have terrible fears of a lot of things it took some time to over come these fears. My fears were of people and heights. I learned if you don’t over come your fears you will never over come anything. 

It is important to over come your fears.

I had terrible fears of being around people. Why is this I was bullied for 31 years of my life. I was terrified of being bullied again and again. I avoid a lot of gatherings even going to the movies or down the park. It was stopping me from meeting people and making new friends. 

I had to create new habits towards people allowing myself to trust. This was a big issue for me that was ‘trust’  it took a lot of encouragement for me to around people again.

When, I over come this fear it was a breeze. I was able to be around people without feeling fearful. 

I was terrified of heights! Are you terrified of heights?

One time my partner and I went traveling to Tasmania – Australia it is absouelty beautiful. Before, we left to travel to Tasmania, I made a promise to myself that I will over come all fears of heights while holidaying in Tasmania.

I shared this to my partner so while in Tasmania on every adventure we went on I did it! I went on a hang glider it was the most scariest thing ever. I rode a quad bike for the first time. I walked on the highest bridge ever and climb on the highest NUT that is above sea level.

I could not believe how much I had over come the ‘being afraid’ there were many times I almost said ‘No, I can’t do this’ no matter how I was feeling. I remembered my promise to myself. 

The above photo is of me standing on the edge on a massive huge rock looking out the magical view. We had to climb up high to get to this biggest rock. Of course I was fearful and I was so fear of slipping. I kept pushing on till we made it to the top. 

It is truly, amazing feeling when you let go of what you are afraid of. You feel free. Not only do you feel free you feel confident. 

However, when we let go of what we are afraid of whatever this maybe it can keep you from living your life and going after what you want.  It keeps us stagnant and depressed. Some of our fears may come from events that happened to us at some point in our life or they may come from the unknown.

No matter where they come from or what you’re afraid is it keeps you from being your true self. 

We aren’t born with our fears.

They develop over time. Maybe from getting chased by a dog, being abused or being made fun of by others. Maybe they come from our parent’s own fears projected onto us.

Many of our fears stem form family expectations or external pressures. These fears clash with our sense of who we are inside- our true interests, what we desire and think and everything about us.

Both the external fears or pressures and your own ideas of who you are shape your values, choices, decisions and who you think you are.

Our fears are based in our ego (our false self) keeping us disconnected from our true nature. This keeps us in fear and filled with anxiety on a daily basis. Bringing your fears to the surface allows you to interpret them through your adult mind and a higher perspective.

You’ll begin to see how irrational they are and how they are keeping you from being your authentic self.

Do you know the fears that are keeping you from being your authentic self?

One way to discover and come to terms with a fear is to journal about it. Journal your fears but take it one step further by looking at what the root cause of the fear is or where the fear comes from.

If the fear you have stems from comparing yourself to others, you need to learn how to stop worrying what others are doing or thinking about you. This keeps you from truly being who you really are.

Name a fear you have successfully overcome already. How did it change your life?

Think about what you do that is a waste of time because you are afraid of the outcome if you don’t control it. How can you let go of the fear of the outcome and put your time to better use?

What lies have you told yourself or others have told you that have affected your image. Think of and implement different versions that are true to begin changing your self-image to the one you want it to be.

What fear is keeping you from doing something even know you can do it better than other people? How can you push past this fear so you are being your authentic self?

Make a 90 day plan to do the things you need to do to overcome a fear you have that is keeping you from being yourself. What steps do you need to take, put into place, and practice daily?

In the end, fear, anxiety and worry are not your natural state. They keep you from realising your dreams, being true to who you are and being a washed out version of yourself.

Remember, I believe in you

much love

Ronni xx