Are you one of those people who always says ‘No’ to everything then later regret it? 

There are many things we all would love to say yes to but when the moment comes, we all falter and eventually say no.

When we utter the one-syllable word, no; we let opportunities and adventures pass us by. If we are not careful, all the good things in life will pass us by and we will be left with regrets over all those things we could have done and accomplished had we only said Yes.

It is not very easy to become a Yes person, there are some roadblocks and challenges along the way. Let us look at some of those horrible little things that prevent us from saying that much-awaited Yes.

1. Fear of failure

Fear is a crippling thing. Many of us have these unfounded fears in us. Nobody wants to fail and so we would rather not try than to suffer the feeling of defeat.

We need to get rid of fear if we are to venture into new things. Do not be afraid to fail once in a while. Take every failure as an opportunity for learning. With each try, we get emboldened and we gain more experience.

Do not let fear let you cower down when faced with new things and opportunities. Say yes, be bold and savor every learning opportunity that is presented to you.

Be it matters of love, relationships, or career, be bold. Let boldness determine your course of action. Say yes to bravery today.

2. Negativity

It takes some degree of optimism to venture into the unknown. People with a negative attitude towards life always have some misgivings when it comes to new ventures.

If you always think of the worst-case scenario, if you dwell on all the negative things that might come, it will always be hard for you to say Yes when opportunities come knocking at your door.

A negative attitude towards life and things will cripple a person into inaction. They feel that despair when they think of new ventures and they never launch into action. Lose that pessimism and embrace a stimulating life filled with positivity.

3. Lack of self-confidence

Confidence is a quality that helps people to wade through life unhindered. If you lack self-confidence, you are incapable of making your own independent choices.

You always hesitate and seek the approval of others. So, you never say Yes to whatever thing you like to do yourself. In the end, your Yes will be that weak one that comes from wanting to please others.

Let your Yes come from deep within you. Say Yes and fully embrace that decision as your own. This can only be done if we are confident of ourselves and our aptitudes. Be confident in your capabilities and stand by your own Yes confidently. Own your Yes.

4. Fear of leaving one’s comfort zone

As humans, we love to feel safe. We built walls of routine and rituals to keep the unknown at bay. We settle in our small comfort zone and try to ward off anything that might pull us out of this zone of comfort.

We love to retreat into our cocoon when faced with novelty. This is one of the greatest roadblocks to becoming a Yes person. We tend to settle and lose the curiosity that adds spice to life.

The best things, adventures, and opportunities usually lie way outside our circle of comfort. Break the barrier, dare new stuff by saying Yes to things that lie out of your comfort zone.

This will be the beginning of a life of wonder and joy.

5. Laziness

The older we grow, the more we let laziness infiltrate our lives. We adopt a sloth-like attitude, scared of anything that requires a little amount of effort.

We cease to invest ourselves in things that require some spark from us. This is one of the most horrible roadblocks to becoming a yes person. When we say, we are taking on more tasks, hobbies, and adventures.

For someone who is lazy, this might seem like a lot of work, so they retreat back into their slow routine; they go back to their couch and stay there, with the word ‘No’ ready to be launched any time. Why don’t you shun laziness, embrace action in life?

Start by saying Yes to that thing you have been lazy to do, maybe decluttering your life and work station.

In conclusion, we can see that there are tough hurdles to overcome when it comes to saying Yes. But that does not mean they are impossible to jump past.

Be vigilant.

Watch out for those things and excuses that are blocking you from becoming the person you want to be.

Do not let opportunities pass you by that easily. Say “no” to these roadblocks so that your life of Yes can be fully rewarding.

Remember, I believe in you 

much love

Ronni xx