What do you see in yourself when you look in the mirror are you saying kind things about yourself or are you wishing things differently about yourself? If you are not being kind to yourself start creating a new habit by saying nice things about yourself. Don’t wait for someone else to say it to you. It is important to learn to see the beauty in yourself and not bullying your own self image.

The most attractive thing about you should have less to do with your face and body and more to do with your heart and how you treat other people. We all see appearances first when we meet someone and have that first impression; and initial judgement is generally based on their appearance.

When we see what we like we wish we could have that too. If we continue to bully ourselves and our bodies we are not accepting that self. When we don’t like something about our image we hide behind the curtains afraid to be seen.

In current days it seems that we judge others and ourselves then we bully ourselves because we want to be different. Social media has one of the highest judgments on image! Many people have opinions on how the person looks or should look.

When we judge ourselves comparing ourselves to others and what we stand for does not seem to matter anymore. There is no effort made to get to know the person behind the appearance.

I was bullied a lot about my image I never understood why I was called ‘ugly’ all the time it was constantly all the time this hurt my feelings deeply it shattered my self confidence. The more they kept telling me how ugly I was I started to believe it.

Whenever I looked in the mirror I was starting to say not nice things about myself. Things like I wish I was prettier, I wish I was smart, I was wishing a lot of things for myself. I was judging myself and compare myself to others. I did this for a long time. When I was younger I was around girls who bully me to be perfect and to be like them. They had everything a girl could want the best bags, shoes, clothes, hair do’s, the perfect looks and good looking boyfriends.

Each time I caught up with them I would be put down for the clothes I was wearing, or how I should style my hair. I tried really hard to keep up with their high standards. It was wearing me down a lot and I felt so frustrated because I really wanted to please them. I realised I couldn’t and it was making me feel exhausted. 

I had to learn to walk away, so I could be free to be me and wear what I like and be who I truly am. It wasn’t easy walking away. After a few months I realised how peaceful I felt. I was liking myself a little more I felt happier. I was saying nice things about myself each time I look in the mirror. I was being more kinder to myself. 

I’d like you to meet a lovely lady name Julia Furlan who was bullied for her image and body.

This is her story.

I can’t really remember a time when I didn’t judge my body in opposition to the bodies around me. I loved gymnastics and dance growing up, but those activities required a lot of time staring straight into a mirror and judging, so I learned the difference very quickly between a “good” body and the one I had.

My thighs were too big, my legs were too short, I was round where I wanted to be straight. I’d go a whole day eating nothing but baby carrots; I’d work out long before the sun rose to try to wiggle into the smallest jeans I could find. I still do a fair amount of hating on my body and I’m not proud of it. But now, when I’m measuring how gigantic my thighs are or how short I am next to another woman, I tell myself that this is the body I’ve got and I owe it to myself to use it.

I’m not going to get taller and I’m never going to be a twiggy model-type loping around the world (or on the TV screen, magazine covers, or at the movies for that matter.When I can’t do it, when I’m in a place of absolute self-loathing and body hating, I try to remember that there are young girls everywhere who are listening to their moms talk about their jiggly arms or their fat thighs. I remember what it was like to hear the women around me talk about their bodies like that.

I remember how terrible it felt to stand in front of the mirror and rag on myself, so I try to think of the baby feminists out there who are still growing and changing and I flip the script on the negative self-talk. They’re listening, so I try to say the right thing whenever I can.

By Julia Furlan.

It is important not to judge others or bully ourselves to be something we’re not. What you say about others says something about yourself. It is our own mental attitude which make the world what it is for us. 

In our thoughts it makes things beautiful and our thoughts makes things ugly.

Not our eyes. The whole world is in our minds. So, learn to see things in a proper light and learn to get to know a person instead of how they look. Using your mind instead of your eyes. Are you being kind to yourself or are you finding that you’re judging yourself?

Remember, I believe in you xx